Not "Let It Go", but "Let You Go"

One of the most common advices we often receive and try following in order to deal with the past things which we hold on but also feel tired, painful about is "let it go". 


Why we keep holding on things which suffer us? The reason is that we feel a sense of self-pity or self-justify and these sense make up the sense of identity, of existence as the lyrics in a song "How would I ever go on? Without you there is no place to belong", or more precisely, we can say: "without you there is no place to be I". It turns out that we keep holding on those things for we must be "something", even though it may be suffering, rather than nothing. 

Nevertheless, the time comes when we are no longer able to bear that burning "something" so we start wanting to get rid of it. So "let it go"! 

However, it is not that easy. For many people, the past is the shadow which they never can escape from, in other words, they really do not know how to let it go. How hard they try to run away, it does not help, but reinforces their feeling of hopeless effort. They may indulge themselves in the darkness of some "fun" things to make them disappear as well as that shadow. We all know what is waiting for us behind those. 

Yes, of course, it is not easy. Yes, it can never be easy to let go of something that does not exist! 


Someone said: we are trying to forget things while they passed already! Could not be more true! 

So stop fighting with yourself to "let it go", but "let you go", the "you" who loudly or silently states "I want to get rid of these past things. I want to 'let it go'". As long as that "you" exists, it gives rise to the already-passing things called "the past", and paradoxically, it then tries to get rid of that, just like one goes standing under the sun and then tries to get rid of one's own shadow. 

And the following question will be "How to let that 'you' go?". 

Well! The old year is passing and the new year is coming, right at this moment... 

Happy New Year!